I've got this friend. Let's call him Perry. He's a really good guy, one of my best friends. We've known each other for years, over a decade now, and even though we've lived hundreds of miles from each other for most of our relationship we've managed to stay in close contact via e-mail and phone calls.
During the last half of 2007, we had started collaborating on quite a few business and personal projects which required us to talk several times a week, if not several times a day. I am not anti-social by any means, but since I work from home and my work primarily entails typing on a computer, I don't exactly see a lot of people during the week. I really enjoyed the daily calls with Perry because it helped me not to feel so closed off within the confines of my home office. The calls got to be so frequent that my wife started calling us girlfriends.
Now the weird thing is that I've not heard anything from Perry in over 2 weeks. This is not without precedent. A notorious workaholic, Perry has failed to return e-mails or calls to me for brief periods of time before this, but this time seems different. We had been talking and working on projects constantly until right up to Christmas. The last time we spoke we were mapping out all the things we planned to work on in 2008. Since that call just before New Year's, I've heard nothing from him despite sending numerous e-mails and leaving quite a few voice mails.
When he's blown me off like this before, I've not worried too much about it, thinking, "That's just how Perry is." This time I'm starting to get just a little bit pissed and a little more worried. If for some reason he's just not calling me back, I want to know why. We've been friends way too long to have him drop off the face of the earth with no explanation. If something has happened and he can't call or write, I want to help. That's what friends do for each other. Unfortunately, when life and work start to overwhelm him, Perry tends to dig in and solve all his problems by himself (like any good workaholic would.)
I thought for quite awhile about whether I should write about this in a blog. Personal relationship stuff is usually better suited for a journal that no one but myself will read. Since the e-mails and calls haven't worked, I guess I'm using this blog as a final means to say, "Dude, WTF. Pick up the goddamned phone and give me a call."
Obviously, I'm concerned by the whole situation. Either Perry is choosing not to call, feels like he has to shoulder the world's burdens by himself or something has happened to prevent him from calling. Either way, I would really, really like to know what's going on with my friend now.
During the last half of 2007, we had started collaborating on quite a few business and personal projects which required us to talk several times a week, if not several times a day. I am not anti-social by any means, but since I work from home and my work primarily entails typing on a computer, I don't exactly see a lot of people during the week. I really enjoyed the daily calls with Perry because it helped me not to feel so closed off within the confines of my home office. The calls got to be so frequent that my wife started calling us girlfriends.
Now the weird thing is that I've not heard anything from Perry in over 2 weeks. This is not without precedent. A notorious workaholic, Perry has failed to return e-mails or calls to me for brief periods of time before this, but this time seems different. We had been talking and working on projects constantly until right up to Christmas. The last time we spoke we were mapping out all the things we planned to work on in 2008. Since that call just before New Year's, I've heard nothing from him despite sending numerous e-mails and leaving quite a few voice mails.
When he's blown me off like this before, I've not worried too much about it, thinking, "That's just how Perry is." This time I'm starting to get just a little bit pissed and a little more worried. If for some reason he's just not calling me back, I want to know why. We've been friends way too long to have him drop off the face of the earth with no explanation. If something has happened and he can't call or write, I want to help. That's what friends do for each other. Unfortunately, when life and work start to overwhelm him, Perry tends to dig in and solve all his problems by himself (like any good workaholic would.)
I thought for quite awhile about whether I should write about this in a blog. Personal relationship stuff is usually better suited for a journal that no one but myself will read. Since the e-mails and calls haven't worked, I guess I'm using this blog as a final means to say, "Dude, WTF. Pick up the goddamned phone and give me a call."
Obviously, I'm concerned by the whole situation. Either Perry is choosing not to call, feels like he has to shoulder the world's burdens by himself or something has happened to prevent him from calling. Either way, I would really, really like to know what's going on with my friend now.
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Hopefully it's just a post-holiday swampiness. Keep us posted!
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